Anal only in the Bay Area, California

[CumInAssOnly]

Hi, I'm new to this board and find it very interesting. I'd love to learn more from couples like us.

My wife and I have been enjoying anal sex for many years, but as a "special treat" rather than a regular thing. This started changing about a year ago, when my wife got her first bout of bacterial vaginosis. For those who aren't familiar, this is a condition caused by an upset in the pH of the vagina, causing the usual mix of healthy bacteria to get upset. When the bad bacteria take over, it becomes itchy and smelly -- not a threatening medical condition, but a big downer.

She went through several cycles of vaginally-delivered antibiotics, which have some downsides themselves, but cured the problem temporarily. The BV would always come back after a few weeks. The issue is how to control vaginal pH so that the bad bacteria don't get an edge. Semen is one of the factors that has an impact on vaginal pH, and based on some papers we decided to experiment going condom-only. After several months she has been BV free! So we have decided to make condoms a permanent part of our vaginal sex (we're done having kids). Since I tend to leak a lot of precum, I don't enter her vagina bare at all any more.

Because of all this, our frequency of anal sex has gone way up. Like most men I prefer sex without a condom, and for us that means anal sex. My wife enjoys anal but still gets off better from vaginal sex. So our sex tends to be: I fuck her vaginally with a condom until she gets off (she uses a vibrator also). Then I remove the condom and fuck her ass until I come inside. Anal sex feels great, and it's nice to get a lot more of it now.

I'm encouraging my wife to use the vibe during anal, to see if she can learn to come that way too. Ideally we'd get to a point where we'd have the option of going anal-only and doing away with condoms entirely. That G-spot is a powerful thing for my wife though.

[amorous945]

Hi, and welcome!

Like you, there are also others here who have moved more towards AO because their partner has some kind of vaginal issue. Others, like me, started out having anal sex occasionally and just eventually evolved more towards AO as a preference. Still, others, for even more reasons but, regardless, you'll find common ground here, as well as intelligent discussion by real people having real experiences.

There "may" come a time when your wife will prefer anal sex, but only time will tell. I wonder why some women have stronger sensations through anal sex and vice-versa. I wonder if it's more psychological than physical. I was once in a relationship with a woman who out of necessity (for birth control) would let me fuck her ass. Although there were many times that it was obvious that she was thoroughly enjoying it, getting her to admit it was almost impossible, or at best she would only admit it laced with some kind of apologetic.

[taylork]

Hello cuminassonly i hope you can get your wife to consider anal only. She may think she gets off better with vaginal but thats just because she isn't used to anal so much. The more frequent she has anal the easier and better it gets. What worked with me and my gf was getting her to try just a month of anal only and after that we didn't do much vaginal and she eventually decided she liked anal more. Most her worries were about thinking it would harm her in the long run and after effects of anal but we worked through that.

[marcus]

Welcome!

My wife enjoys anal but still gets off better from vaginal sex.

It may be that with all the problems she has had with her vagina, she may feel she has invested much mental energy in making it "work", if you understand me. Not so much it's really better but she want's vaginal to be a success, to prove to herself she's just like other women.

I'm encouraging my wife to use the vibe during anal, to see if she can learn to come that way too. Ideally we'd get to a point where we'd have the option of going anal-only and doing away with condoms entirely. That G-spot is a powerful thing for my wife though.

I'd be very surprised if the vibe+anal didn't achieve spectacular results - it usually does. Keep working on that and encouraging her to do so then she'll forget about that g-spot.

[CumInAssOnly]

I'd be very surprised if the vibe+anal didn't achieve spectacular results - it usually does. Keep working on that and encouraging her to do so then she'll forget about that g-spot.

That's exactly what I'm working on, helping my wife learn how to have orgasms during anal. I'm confident it can happen, but it will be an adjustment for her. She's still in the process of getting more comfortable with me in her ass. Now that we're having anal every time we have sex (it's how I come) we're getting plenty of practice!

Ultimately I'd love to go anal-only and do away with condoms entirely. Anal is for us incredibly intimate and connected. I've noticed she is more aware of my state of arousal when we do anal -- she can "read" me better and know when I'm going to come, if that makes sense. And the feeling of her sphincter gripping the base of my cock while I unload deep inside her ass -- now that is a feeling that cannot be beat!!

The other thing I'm working on is to stop masturbating between sessions with my wife. It's hard to be self-disciplined enough, but ideally I'd like all of my sperm output to go into my wife's bottom where it belongs.

[marcus]

That's exactly what I'm working on, helping my wife learn how to have orgasms during anal.

So she doesn't have any orgasms during anal at all right now? Even with clitoral stimulation? That's unusual. Most women find it even easier with that combination than with normal vaginal sex with/without clitoral stimulation.

Ultimately I'd love to go anal-only and do away with condoms entirely. Anal is for us incredibly intimate and connected. I've noticed she is more aware of my state of arousal when we do anal -- she can "read" me better and know when I'm going to come, if that makes sense.

That's why it's puzzling that she can't orgasm yet. My wife finds the increased intimacy amplifies the pleasure - it is very arousing for us both.

And the feeling of her sphincter gripping the base of my cock while I unload deep inside her ass -- now that is a feeling that cannot be beat!!

Given that being gripped at the base enhances orgasm so much I've never figured out why the vagina is so poor in that regard.

The other thing I'm working on is to stop masturbating between sessions with my wife. It's hard to be self-disciplined enough, but ideally I'd like all of my sperm output to go into my wife's bottom where it belongs.

[marcus]

ideally I'd like all of my sperm output to go into my wife's bottom where it belongs.

You know, I've been think a lot about this. It's interesting that someone else shares this feeling. It is something I love, and indeed feel almost "driven" to do. Which, when you think about it, is totally contrary to nature. But then I suppose that encompasses the whole of anal sex.

All the same, now that I think more about it, ejaculating as much and as deeply as I can is one of the most rewarding aspects. Or something like that, as there is almost an emotion attached to all this I can't quite describe.

[taylork]

I'm just the same as you guys and i love the idea of her having all my sperm inside my gf there. I never get why they dont do that in porn but always over the face or something which doesn't feel right or make any sense. Why would you do that?