Introductions, and how anal saved my sex life!

New to the forum? Introduce yourself to the other members of the community. Share a little bit about yourself and your anal only experience and motivations.
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Introductions, and how anal saved my sex life!

Post by sarafiapuss » Tue Sep 29, 2020 1:05 am

Hi, my name is Sara and I come from Sweden, and I am 18 years old.

I found this community, after searching for other people with similar experiences, allthough my background might be another than most others here.

As long as I can remember I have been experiencing pain and uncomfortable "burning sensations" when touching my vagina. I did not understand why, and it took me a lot of time before i got diagnosed with Vulvodynia (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vulvodynia). Is there anyone else here with the same background?

As a teenager this was something that gave me a bit of issues when I got my period, etc, but the problems reached another level when I got my first boyfriend that I wanted to become sexually involved with. After trying and messing around with oral sex and tried vaginal sex for some time, always with uncomfort or even pain as a result, we started trying with anal sex, and this was the only thing that worked good for us! Obviously there was things to learn, and to try carefully, but with practice I could even learn to orgasm through anal sex. At last I could have a working sex life with my boyfriend, and feel (almost) like anybody else!

In Sweden, parents normally does not have any taboos with teenagers having sex, and birth control pills or condoms are available, and we get information about this in schools in general, so I dont have the same background in being curios for anal sex, as most other people here do?

I guess, that many guys (and maybe girls also) have nasty dreams and get really turned on by anal sex, while others want to explore it as a birth control? This must be cultural differences, since we dont have taboos with birth control in Sweden.

Are there also differencies depending on age? I guess anal is more common in younger people, than older, since the subject is less taboo, and more available via porn, and internet, etc?

Please share your background, why you got into anal!

Love / Sara

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Re: Introductions, and how anal saved my sex life!

Post by elementary28 » Tue Sep 29, 2020 3:24 am

Hello Sara and welcome :)

My ex had similar troubles with vaginal sex, as you described discomfort, pain and often burning. I remember she had a bladder infection too after sex often. I don't recall the diagnosis from the doctor though. It might just be a combination of your anatomy there and maybe some underlying psychological association? Meaning that if you collect bad experiences you kind of expect them to return when you do vaginal again...

I think you are correct when you say that anal is more popular with younger people now and I think it's a growing trend too, especially at your age. I think a lot of it has to do with culture and upbringing, since Sweden is pretty open towards sexuality I can see it being more popular there as well.

Most people I know of that enjoy anal do it just for the pleasure and not for birth control specifically, though of course this is a nice side effect :)

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Re: Introductions, and how anal saved my sex life!

Post by jack.fats » Tue Sep 29, 2020 10:10 am

Hello Sara, nice to see you and welcome here between us at AOL Forum :)

I'm a newbie just like you (first posts here), but as far as I am concerned, I'm elder than you so I try to answer honestly to your questions:


Are there also differencies depending on age? I guess anal is more common in younger people, than older
Yes and no. Younger girls, go for it due to "virginity" but it's not so common here in Italy. They still think "Anal is for faggots" and you might encounter problems with it. What about +40? Well, I don't know because my wife likes anal sometimes. I know it is still a taboo, especially the southernmost regions of Italy.

Is there anyone else here with the same background?
Yes, my ex for example: she wanted to be virgin so I tried to get her into anal sex by telling her a joke on "how to be virgin". She was totally amazed about feelings and its deep climax: I still remembered her face while staring at me in a mirror, telling: "butt fuck me... harder... I love it". But I was in Milan, it's a way ahead from Rome.

What teenagers need most is knowledge (avoided by teachers because of church, the Holy see): the safer the merrier.

I wish I were your boyfriend now Sara... :)

All the best, Jack

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Re: Introductions, and how anal saved my sex life!

Post by jack.fats » Tue Sep 29, 2020 10:16 am

And sorry, "anal turns you on by having deeper climax because it's kinkier, naughtier while everyone is relaxed: no woman gets pregnant from anal..."

Enjoy it, Sara.

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Re: Introductions, and how anal saved my sex life!

Post by sarafiapuss » Wed Sep 30, 2020 1:47 am

elementary28 wrote:
Tue Sep 29, 2020 3:24 am
Hello Sara and welcome :)

My ex had similar troubles with vaginal sex, as you described discomfort, pain and often burning. I remember she had a bladder infection too after sex often. I don't recall the diagnosis from the doctor though. It might just be a combination of your anatomy there and maybe some underlying psychological association? Meaning that if you collect bad experiences you kind of expect them to return when you do vaginal again...

I think you are correct when you say that anal is more popular with younger people now and I think it's a growing trend too, especially at your age. I think a lot of it has to do with culture and upbringing, since Sweden is pretty open towards sexuality I can see it being more popular there as well.

Most people I know of that enjoy anal do it just for the pleasure and not for birth control specifically, though of course this is a nice side effect :)

Hi! I dont know if there is any psychological issues to why I feel this burning pain, etc, but I dont think so. It is a diagnosis that there still is not so much knowledge and research into. But for the moment, I accept it and I now I have a great sex life, so I´m happy in that regard!

I think Swedish culture is very open minded when it comes to sex, and nobody is religious, so people can do exactly what they want to (having sex, or using birth control, or whatever), and that is a very positive thing I think!

Anyway, I am so glad that I finally can have great sex, and that I have found something that works for me!

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Re: Introductions, and how anal saved my sex life!

Post by sarafiapuss » Wed Sep 30, 2020 1:53 am

jack.fats wrote:
Tue Sep 29, 2020 10:10 am
Hello Sara, nice to see you and welcome here between us at AOL Forum :)

I'm a newbie just like you (first posts here), but as far as I am concerned, I'm elder than you so I try to answer honestly to your questions:


Are there also differencies depending on age? I guess anal is more common in younger people, than older
Yes and no. Younger girls, go for it due to "virginity" but it's not so common here in Italy. They still think "Anal is for faggots" and you might encounter problems with it. What about +40? Well, I don't know because my wife likes anal sometimes. I know it is still a taboo, especially the southernmost regions of Italy.

Is there anyone else here with the same background?
Yes, my ex for example: she wanted to be virgin so I tried to get her into anal sex by telling her a joke on "how to be virgin". She was totally amazed about feelings and its deep climax: I still remembered her face while staring at me in a mirror, telling: "butt fuck me... harder... I love it". But I was in Milan, it's a way ahead from Rome.

What teenagers need most is knowledge (avoided by teachers because of church, the Holy see): the safer the merrier.

I wish I were your boyfriend now Sara... :)

All the best, Jack

Hi Jack!

I guess Italy is way more religious than Sweden. From my perspective (I am not at all religious) and I think it is shameful that religions put pressure on people and tell them what to do! To be allowed to get information and knowledge is always a good thing, and more people can enjoy different sorts of sex, without shame or guilt.

But I understand that religion is a big part of many cultures and societies, and I do respect people who has different opinions, as long as they accept my beliefs and opinions!

Regardless what you like to do in bed, people should be allowed to do it without question, shame or guilt! Just be safe and careful, and enjoy sex together with your partner! :)

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Re: Introductions, and how anal saved my sex life!

Post by amaizeg » Fri Oct 02, 2020 9:41 am

Hello Sara

It's great to see that you found your way to a great anal sexlife so early.

My steady girl has a mild case of the same thing that you are suffering from. Her vulva is very sensitive, so much so that even licking can make her feel uncomfortable. Unfortunately for her, she did not find someone with whom she could confidently have anal sex until we got together when she was almost 30. I have had anal sex with several of my steady girls before and I didn't even press the issue, just mentioned it in an offhand remark. It must have inspired her, because the next time we had sex, she guided me to her asshole and this was when she lost her anal virginity. It was also the last time we had vaginal sex. That was five years ago.

Now she has become completely dedicated to anal pleasure. She changed her diet and cleans the insides of her rectum meticulously. She has adopted an exercise regime that made her wonderfully big round ass so taut you can bounce a quarter off of it. She does ass-to-mouth with joy and enthusiasm. I never had to ask her for any of this, it was all her choice and initiative. The funny thing is, that she will not admit that she's committed to anal-only. She often talks about wanting to have vaginal sex eventually. Still she never initiates it and keeps on talking about how much she loves anal sex and how glad she is the dissatisfying days of feeling compelled to do vaginal are behind her.

With you still being young, you are already on a good path. You will have many years of anal joy ahead of you. There will probably be some guys who are too prude or too squeamish or too scared to appreciate the wonderful anal-only girl that you are, but the guys who truly cherish your sexuality will treat you right.
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Re: Introductions, and how anal saved my sex life!

Post by amaizeg » Fri Oct 02, 2020 9:47 am

jack.fats wrote:
Tue Sep 29, 2020 10:10 am
They still think "Anal is for faggots" and you might encounter problems with it.

Funny you mention that. The first girl I ever had anal sex with (when I was 20 and she was 19) was Italian, and she complained about Italian guys being too prude for anal sex. I had anal sex with two other Italian women who said something similar. It's sad to hear that women in Italy who love anal sex have such a hard time. On the other hand, it provides us guys from abroad with anal-starved Italian beauties :D

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Re: Introductions, and how anal saved my sex life!

Post by sarafiapuss » Mon Oct 05, 2020 12:07 am

amaizeg wrote:
Fri Oct 02, 2020 9:41 am
Hello Sara

It's great to see that you found your way to a great anal sexlife so early.

My steady girl has a mild case of the same thing that you are suffering from. Her vulva is very sensitive, so much so that even licking can make her feel uncomfortable. Unfortunately for her, she did not find someone with whom she could confidently have anal sex until we got together when she was almost 30. I have had anal sex with several of my steady girls before and I didn't even press the issue, just mentioned it in an offhand remark. It must have inspired her, because the next time we had sex, she guided me to her asshole and this was when she lost her anal virginity. It was also the last time we had vaginal sex. That was five years ago.

Now she has become completely dedicated to anal pleasure. She changed her diet and cleans the insides of her rectum meticulously. She has adopted an exercise regime that made her wonderfully big round ass so taut you can bounce a quarter off of it. She does ass-to-mouth with joy and enthusiasm. I never had to ask her for any of this, it was all her choice and initiative. The funny thing is, that she will not admit that she's committed to anal-only. She often talks about wanting to have vaginal sex eventually. Still she never initiates it and keeps on talking about how much she loves anal sex and how glad she is the dissatisfying days of feeling compelled to do vaginal are behind her.

With you still being young, you are already on a good path. You will have many years of anal joy ahead of you. There will probably be some guys who are too prude or too squeamish or too scared to appreciate the wonderful anal-only girl that you are, but the guys who truly cherish your sexuality will treat you right.

Well, I´m glad that you and your GF has great sex, and it is the same for me and my BF! I guess I will have vaginal again sometime, at least if we try to get children sometime in a distant future! :-P But until then, I think I will be AO.

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Re: Introductions, and how anal saved my sex life!

Post by julietagc » Tue Oct 06, 2020 9:40 am

Welcome, I am glad that anal sex has been a solution to your problem.
And yes, indeed I see that our generations and those that are coming are more open to anal sex.
I dont know other AO girls in person, but almost all of those I know in my environment have had anal sex or have anal sex in addition to vaginal, even though vaginal sex predominates.

As for your question, how did I get here?
In short, I always liked anal sex, even my first time was anal, but naturally I had more vaginal sex than anal, until the end of 2019 that without any reason, it just happened like that, I had more anal and I postred a tweet whit a pic saying "I prefer anal sex" the admin of this forum told me from the Only Anal Lifestile Twitter page, it made me curious, I found this forum, the guides, the discord etc. And I wanted to try, I am curious and I like to try new things, I tried it for two months, I loved it and decided to continue. Even though I have doubts and temptations regarding vaginal sex.
Anyway, a pleasure to have you here. :D
"Pussy ignored, ass gaped" ;)

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