What's qualifies as "losing your virginity" to you?

[sana]

Experience and also sharing the pleasure of love and lust.
Lets not pretend urges and attraction does not exist.
Only so much you can really share with blowjobs and handjobs. Kissing gets boring. Anal you can both really enjoy, share and connect.

[monkeydgarpsan]

Vaginal only Is the Marker of virginity in my Humble oppinion. Anal is for Lust, Love and all the emotions for me, but vaginal is when Things get serious, Like building a Family and stuff. Also important, but 99% of all the sex should be analonly!

[sana]

Ideally a girl should let a man use her vagina after marriage with the idea of getting pregnant. It makes sense to loose virginity an open the vagina then.
Best scenario is she gets pregnant and doent need to use her vagina again till they want another child.

Better off to keep the vagina closed until this scenario. Thats what i tell young girls.

[jack.fats]

For me, I would say vaginal is the key thing.

I guess I tie that into fertility family making and child bearing.

I actually has anal before vaginal, and in my head all the while I had never had vaginal I still considered myself in some sense "a virgin"

That was always my impression. Biblical and ancient sources (who invented the concept, anyway), seem to use it to refer to a woman's being deflowered -- typically with the breaking of the hymen.

It's an artificial construct, anyway, and the word's become even more useless because it's become so ambiguous.

Totally agreed.

It is something Biblical, losing its importance and it becomes pointless nowadays.

Best, J