Tips on having my husband do anal with me

[Techlady1990]

Hi everyone, new to this group and I really need some advice.
I have never done anal before, since the last couple of months I dont know why but I get really turned on by the idea of my husband fucking me in my ass.
I talked to him about it and I even have bought us some toys, but he is just not interested in it.

[aNewFrivolity]

Hi! It's a bit hard to give advice knowing so little. For example, what's your cultural background (roughly)?
Your husband not being interested can have a number of reasons. Did he mention any?
Just as an example, I come from western Europe where heterosexual anal sex is becoming more and more common and is often openly discussed. Yet I have met guys who weren't interested in it at all, in one case due to latent homophobia. His explanation: "I'm totally not interested in fucking a girl in the ass. If I wanted that, I might as well fuck a guy." Great thinking, I wonder if he applies the same logic to kissing.

[Techlady1990]

Thanks for the reply. We are from Europe and we dont believe in any religion, in a country totally open minded about everything about sex.
When he is drunk he tries to stick his finger in my ass. He talks about my ass being the hottest so I dont really understand now Im in the big deal and he just not interested in it. I know he is not homophobic at all.

[ChrisW]

If he doesn't want to, he doesn't want to. End of.

[Backdoorlover]

1. Have a serious talk with him and tell him straight up you want to ve assfucked. Don’t wrap it up in nice words, be litteral and say “I really want you to assfuck me” in your mothertongue.
2. Ask him why he’s opposed to it. Try to understand his view.
3. A woman who want to let her man penetrate and fuck her asshole, is giving herself in de deepest possible way. Make him feel likenit’s the gift hou want to give him.
4. Don’t push him. Be patient and talk a lot.

[Techlady1990]

Well we did it and i freaking liked it. He wanted me to bj him, but I was like no if you dont want to go anal so why should i please you?
There was this very hot kind of intemacy and he did liked it too. Im not saying we would be AO as we want more children but it would definitely be the normal sex for us when im not ovulating

[Backdoorlover]

Congrats !

When my wife and me were still doing pussy sex, I was always waiting to switch to her asshole. One day she stated she was waited for it too and we discovered that vaginal just became foreplay. I started skipping it and going straight for her asshole. She loved it. So we naturally evolved to anal only and just yesterday we talked about how going back to vaginal isn’t even on the table anymore. ‍

[aNewFrivolity]

Glad to hear you managed to get over the road block and you enjoyed yourself!
What was it that helped in the end? Did you have a long talk like Backdoorlover suggested?

[Techlady1990]

I didnt even have a talk about it. He wanted me to give him a blow job. And I told him I wanted anal, why would I give him what he want if he cant do it back for me.
We talked about it today, and now I know he was just too scared that he would hurt me ending in me dont want to have anal ever. He told me it always have been a fantasy fucking my ass, so when I suggested it he just didnt know how to react on it.
To be honest my ass feels uncomfortable today, but definitely something we will do more

[Colt1911]

I didnt even have a talk about it. He wanted me to give him a blow job. And I told him I wanted anal, why would I give him what he want if he cant do it back for me.
We talked about it today, and now I know he was just too scared that he would hurt me ending in me dont want to have anal ever. He told me it always have been a fantasy fucking my ass, so when I suggested it he just didnt know how to react on it.
To be honest my ass feels uncomfortable today, but definitely something we will do more

Amazing how simple communication can help. Glad this worked out for you. Hope this leads to more anal sex for your both.