Introduction

[MightyRearRanger]

Hello everyone,

I am a 33 year old man who has had a few anal only relationships in the past. I am currently in a relationship with a wonderful woman who I have converted to butt slutism. Though we are not anal only we have almost exclusively anal for intercourse. We also both enjoy giving and receiving oral, toy play, and vaginal intercourse. We typically have vaginal intercourse as a warm up for anal intercourse, though having a vaginal only session is not unheard of with us. When we met 6 months ago she had experienced anal intercourse in the past but had never had a truly skilled sodomizer. The first time I fucked her ass and gave her a continuous rolling wave of assgasms (which was during the first time we had sex), she was hooked. She struggled with her vaginal allegiance through the first months of our time, but has since found peace with and admitted to me numerous times that she prefers anal for intercourse.

I was introduced to anal sex when I was 17 by a mature woman. The first time my glans slipped through her internal sphincter I knew I preferred an anus to a vagina for sex. In the first years thereafter I wasn't always as assertive about my preference for anal sex, but had most partners indulge me and enjoy doing so. With that said I did have a relationship with a woman for several years where the sodomy was scarce, as was the rest of the sex. It was unenjoyable but I was also very busy with other aspects of my life. I lived and learned from that and will never repeat it. By my count I have had an over 94% success rate in terms of fucking the ladies I've slept with in the ass and reckon I have been within over 60 women's rectums, some as one night stands, some as FWB, some as long term relationships.

There is no doubt in my mind that anal sex gives women the best orgasms. The bodies and roots of the clitoris are accessible through the rectum as it lies adjacent to these parts of the clitoris. I have found that if I worship a lady's clit and ass with my tongue and fingers they will willingly and easily spread their cheeks for me. Le petite mort is best induced by sodomizing a woman and I will never forget the first time I achieved that feat. I thought I had killed the woman, literally sodomized her to death and was afraid of how I would explain it to the police. I researched it afterwards and have since learned to just hold a woman as she floats within and the descends from her sub headspace. I also think that as the path to a man's heart runs through his stomach the path to a woman's heart lies within her ass.

I'm happy to be a member of anaonlylifestyle.com and look forward to interacting on the board.

[amorous945]

Hello, MightyRearRanger, and welcome to the group! While there are a few people who are truly AO here, there are others, like me, who still practice vaginal sex from time to time. For us, though, it's usually just as foreplay, and then we move to anal. Even that is rare for us, though, and I can't remember the last time I "came" inside my wife's vagina.

It's seems like you've had some great experiences and encounters. I hope you'll share some of those with us, and also share some pointers on how you've been so successful for those here who prefer anal, but are having trouble getting there.

I can really identify with what you said about knowing your preference for anal after the first time you penetrated an anus. It's the same for me, and I assume "almost" everyone here.

[MightyRearRanger]

There are a few themes I've noticed in women who enjoy or are willing to try anal sex:
-well educated
-more that one tattoo or just ear piercings
-lived in more than just their hometown all their life
-not mind fucked by religion
-dress in a manner that draws attention to their ass
-nurses
-psychologists
-there is also a certain 'shape of their head' or facial morphology I've noticed that if a woman has it she loves anal

Some behaviors I do that help in achieving anal access are:
-telling a potential partner I enjoy doing anal the right way
-don't be a jackass to women
-respect women
-communicated well with women
-cook for them, clean for them, and/or do their laundry at least occasionally
-act like you really care about both their pet cat and their life drama
-kiss them well
-be passionate about both cunnilingus and analingus
-understand the female psychology of anal sex.

Sexual techniques to assure successful anal access are:
-understand that we all start off default female embryologically speaking. Every penis was first a clitoris.
-worship her clit the way you like your cock worshipped.
push her hood (analogous to your foreskin) back when licking or sucking her clit, 'jerk' her clit using her hood
trace her clit from the glans, to where it bifurcates (splits) above her urethra and runs along the top of her pussy
get to know her clit and play it like a fiddle
-while worshiping her clit, lick her ass. even French kiss it like you do her mouth
-lube is cheap, very cheap. use it liberally. apply and reapply often. invest in a lube shooter too
-guide her with your voice 'breath in your nose and out your mouth. push out when you feel me push in'
-let her know that she is in charge of her ass always, even when she turns control over to you
-ALWAYS remember the FACT: IT IS HER ASSHOLE!!!!

And finally, invest in a toilet bidet. They are only $30 on eBay or Amazon. They install in less than 15 minutes on an existing toilet. They make up freshening up before and after a snap by being able to clean off or out just by sitting on the toilet thus relieving a HUGE concern for women. They are worth their weight in gold.

[French Lover]

I have read carefully all your posts, and I believe you have great theories to discuss over here. Though you will learn there are multiple way of being anal-centered, as I like to say.
It will take a little time for me to answer to your posts, but I did want to greats you first: you are most welcome on this forum

[MightyRearRanger]

Or anocentric, as I say...

[Thr3eHoles]

I loved it when I was that wonderful woman.

[amorous945]

At the days end a woman truly just wants to be understood. We all just want to be understood.

I'm not sure that the ability to understand one another in the way that we'd all like to be understood is a quality that we can possess accurately. I would much rather be loved than understood. In love, there is at least the possibility of being understood, but loving and being loved goes way beyond understanding or being understood, in my opinion.

I wish I could agree that anal is the way to access my heart. I wish the simple steps fooled me into contentment and commitment to an AO.

I agree with you. In my experience (and I'm certainly not trying to imply that my experience is the final analysis), access to a woman's heart doesn't ultimately come through any tangible, observable means, such as sex or any other physical act that we see. Being really loved, accepted and treasured are attributes that are understood on a level that transcends physical actions. We can only reach heart level relationships with another when we know that we can "fall" completely and safely into another with all of our faults, fears and insecurities without being rejected. These are qualities that can not be faked.

My journey is on a road less traveled. Most women's are. To break down how to access that her openness into such trivial a as care for her pet may work for some and I envy those. For me it's much bigger than basic equations and checklists.

Again, I agree. None of us can ultimately be reduced to a check list and, I would be willing to bet that most of us here have and are walking "that road less traveled."

Give all the theories you want some thought but we are all unique as snowflakes.

Theories are all that we have at this point in our present state of evolution as humans so, yes, they are worthy of thorough examination and consideration, but are seldom 100% accurate.

we are all unique as snowflakes.

And so are our assholes.....

Again, correct and, for this very reason, fully understanding another or being fully understood would be best overshadowed by the quest of fully loving another, in my opinion.