Robert wrote:Any tips on how to get her to orgasm from anal alone? My girlfriend has never done so, and I would love to see it happen! And also I think that if she could do that, it could sway her more towards going anal only.
The function of the clitoris is as the main erogenous zone on the female body - the female equivalent of a penis. While some women might be able to sometimes achieve orgasm from vaginal or anal stimulation alone, I personally don't see the point. Think about it from a male perspective. Maybe there could be way for a male to achieve orgasm without involving penile stimulation. It may be possible but it probably wouldn't happen easily or often and it wouldn't necessarily be better than a penis-aided orgasm.
It's my opinion, Robert, that your (or anyone's) best hope to help your partner become turned-on by the idea of having anal intercourse every time you make love is to make sure she has plenty of clitoral stimulation while you're together.
My theory is that vast majority of men who have anal-only wives are probably very generous lovers in bed and good husbands the rest of the time. Their wives are willing to "give that up" every time because the female is getting at least as much satisfaction from the sex as the man, and because outside of the bed she is being treated with much respect all week long.
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Here's my tip for anyone reading this post:
First, hopefully she is already turned-on by the idea of anal sex to begin with, and open to trying it out. I'm assuming everyone here has a partner willing to learn and try. Next figure out how to perform oral sex on a woman well (yes clitoral stimulation). Go on porn sites and search how-to videos.
Next also perform oral-anal stimulation on your lady.
Purchase an electric-powered (not battery) magic wand-type sex toy. The most famous one is the Hitachi Magic Wand but there are others. We have one called a "fairy mini" that works well for us.
After you have warmed her up with your oral clitoral stimulation and you have moved on to oral-anal stimulation (don't go from her anus back to her vulva). Turn on the magic wand and have her use it on her clitoris as you begin to give her oral-anal pleasures.
Chances are the orgasms will already be starting and she's already going to be associating pleasure with your tongue in her ass.
As it progresses to full-on anal sex that magic wand device and her clitoris are going to be your best buddies in turning your lady on to anal sex more and more often.
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In our case, regular vaginal sex just seems too vanilla for us now. That's why my wife wants anal every time for it to be satisfying for her. But that doesn't mean we ignore her clitoris. And we don't ever try to achieve the lofty, difficult, and unnecessary goal of orgasm without clitoral stimulation. It happens sometimes but we're not trying for it - and we especially don't attach some magical significance to an anal-only orgasm. Certainly when you and your lady are just learning, I'd think that knowing and respecting the power of the clitoris on a woman would be one of the keys to satisfying anal sex for your partner.
Finally, if you are a lucky enough guy to have a lady open to all this, you should be treating her with the respect she deserves all week long. Put her on a pedestal. Make sure she knows how happy you are with her all the time. Her decision to let you have anal with her on Saturday night might have been made on Wednesday when you went out of your way to do something nice for her (like picking her up from work instead of her taking the bus, or doing the grocery shopping, or cleaning the bathroom, or folding the clean dry laundry).
Be a good lover 24/7.