LuvMyWifesAss wrote:I know the first load I ever blew with my wife (then girlfriend) was receiving oral sex. As a matter of fact, we had lots of oral sex before ever having vaginal sex because she wasn't on the pill and was afraid of pregnancy.
That's very interesting to hear. My experience was a lot the same as yours. I think it's very typical for couples to do other types of sex before ever trying vaginal, whether for religious reasons or worries about pregnancy. Some couples will go for months or years doing only their "starter" sex, whatever that happens to be.
Today the common type of starter sex is oral, but over time I think we'll see anal take its place. The problem with oral is twofold. The first problem is that when a man's entire sexual experience over a long period of time is receiving oral, which is fundamentally passive, it makes it hard for the couple later to transition to more active types of sex. This is a big problem for a lot of couples. Anal is a better introduction to sex because it's active and much closer to the experience of vaginal intercourse: You can use most of the same positions, etc.
And you hit the nail on the head LuvMyWifesAss about the second problem: Oral is fundamentally one-sided. Most or all of the pleasure goes to the man. As an introduction to sex I think oral starts couples off on the wrong foot, where sex focuses on the man's pleasure. That becomes a behavioral pattern that is hard to change. Anal though is an experience that a couple can share in equally. Looking back I wish my wife and I had been anal lovers first. If our first orgasms had been with me deep in her ass that would have started us on a perfect path.